Life, Love & Death: Part 1

When I arrived at work yesterday morning I started hearing rumors that a fellow student affairs staff member had been killed Monday night in a car accident. Reports were hazy, there was no confirmation from our bosses, and no mention in the local news.

The speculation and uncertainty were rough. Since she works in my building, I went to her office to see if she was there. She wasn't.

Her name was Larue. She was in her 50's and had just finished the bachelor's degree she started 12 years ago. She had been taking one or two classes a year for twelve years. She finally finished in December. More importantly, she had just become a grandmother for the first time. Also in December. She was living life out loud and loving every moment.

Monday night she pulled out of the driveway from a hair salon at a green light. An 83 year old man ran the solid red light in his lane in a huge SUV and crashed into her driver's side door. Police say she never really knew what happened and was most likely killed instantly.

I wonder what her last thoughts were.

I want to believe that when my time comes my last thoughts are going to be about the people I love. I want to make an effort to keep those people in the forefront of my mind because you never know when an SUV is going to take you out in the blink of an eye.

Larue could not have done anything differently. She is just gone.

After we got confirmation that it was, indeed, true about Larue I received three messages that illustrate the importance of loving the heck out of the people in our lives. One is a good old standby that makes the rounds in email. One was written by a counseling faculty member here at JMU about what he thinks Valentine's Day should be about. The third was written by Vox's own Tom and I'm sure many of you read it.

I believe in paying attention to the messages that present themselves in our lives so I thought I would share all these messages with you in the hopes that you might also take time to stop and think about life and what is important. Maybe they might touch your heart the way they did mine.

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4 thoughts on “Life, Love & Death: Part 1

  1. Stevie,
    I was blown away after reading all of these postings. You mentioned to me that our days had some strange parallels and you weren't kidding were you? Thank you for sharing, every one of them left a lump in my throat.
    Sometimes, it takes the death of someone close to make us open our eyes and pay attention to those aroud us. Life is so short and we should make the most out of every precious moment.
    Since I made my REAL LIFE entry, there has been another family member death at my work place. That makes three since Saturday. And there is also a guy who has taken time off to be with is wife because she is in the last stages of cancer and isn't expected to live much longer. We've been expecting the call from him any day.
    So much death going on, so much tragedy. That is why it is so important to make the most of every day, because you never know what tomorrow holds.

  2. Wow… My heart is breaking for your colleagues, Tom. One is hard enough. Three since Saturday with one more imminent – that's just plain tragic and heartbreaking. I'll definitely keep you in my thoughts & prayers. I hope your workplace has some things in place to support all of you because that much stuff all at once weighs as heavily on the caregivers as the ones affected. I'm assuming you all are somewhat tight or relational at work. What do you say in this situation? Take care? Hang in there? It all seems kinda trite. I'll pray for all of you.

  3. Stevie- I have read all 3 now- they have really touched my heart. I am so sorry for the loss of lives. It is very sad. We never know- at any moment it could be us. We all need to make sure to show how much we care and love our family and friends. It kind of reminds me of something my grand dad said one time when I was a little girl, he had brought my grandma beautiful fresh flowers in a vase, and he said"Don't put flowers on our graves- if you want to give someone flowers, give them to them while they are alive to enjoy them!" I understand what he was saying, do the good things now- don't wait until it's too late.Thanks Stevie for posting all these great stories from different ones & getting a wonderful message out!!!Have a great day 🙂

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